What is the role of a peacebuilder? I suppose there could be as many different definitions as there are persons who ever lived, for there is no ‘right’ way. With all that I’m learning at the Center for Justice and Peacebuilding, I think the most profound learning can be found in simplicity of some of the oldest traditions. By ‘simplicity’, I don’t mean ‘simplistic’ but rather ‘uncomplicated’. Our contemporary life is crammed full of complexity, data, theories, numbers, words, etc., which sometimes seem to serve only to obfuscate and distort reality into a jumbled mess. Our society is so full of things that are extraneous and superficial that we neglect the relationships that really do matter.
I was asked if I would provide music for a Sept. 11, 2011 event in my community to “not only reflect on how our lives and society have been affected by the terrible events of 9/11/ 2001 and our tragic response as a nation, but also to envision and pray for hopeful, peaceful tomorrows.” I requested more information about what they were planning, got invited to a planning meeting, and soon found myself lobbying for a community-building event rather than an angry rant about “conspiracy theories” surrounding the twin towers’ collapse. Don’t get me wrong: I didn’t wish to dispute those theories (they might be more believable than the official explanation we are given by the US government), but neither did I feel this decennial event was the place for this.
I felt that in order to get to “hopeful, peaceful tomorrows”, we need a more positive focus on what is NOW. Trying to hold officials of a previous administration accountable for the past sounds to me too much like vengeance (which gains nothing), and there are already plenty of other horns blaring that call. We need to come together as people, not succumb to more polarizing propaganda. We need more “restorative” practices — those which encourage dialog and draw us back into harmony with each other, in contrast to the polarization we see all around us. Others on the committee, however, as longtime activists, felt it is important to courageously “speak the truth”, and I greatly respect their commitment and passion.
Truth, however, has many different faces, depending on varying perspectives and experiences. Even when we completely feel our truth is totally incompatible with that being told by another, we must remember that our truth is incomplete. We’ll never get a more complete truth until we engage in dialog – and other interaction – with those with whom we disagree, in a genuine and mutual attempt to understand each other’s perspective. This is much more difficult than protesting loudly, but also much more effective and rewarding.
After the meeting, I went home and wrote an email to the event planning committee in response to a question one of them had asked: “Why don’t you want to be a prophet?” My email was honest and personal. Here is an excerpt:
Personally, I feel that I can be most effective helping in the peacebuilding effort by making myself vulnerable to others, accepting them for who they are, with grace (and myself too!), and entering into a relationship in which we can both learn and teach through honest reflection and dialog. I think there are simple ways, even through my music, that I can reach people, teach people, touch people – and vice versa. Perhaps I can, in subtle and gentle ways, help to change our culture of violence, antagonism and polarization. Maybe that doesn’t seem very effective to those looking for high impact, but one can never fully measure the impact of any method of intervention. Consider a mustard seed. Or a chili pepper. Or a bit of yeast, or salt, or sugar.
I can also make choices about the way I live my life and try to demonstrate the kind of living for which I hope and dream. And it is liberating to be constantly reminded that my role is only part of the work that needs to be done; self-importance is counterproductive, for I’m only one part of the body – though my role is important. We need everyone, doing what they can, using their own gifts, and working together.
Thus began a lengthy email exchange in which members of the committee were really searching and discussing some very interesting things. One thing I like about email conversations: they make space and time for me to say whatever I want to say, in my own time. I tend to measure my words carefully. In email, those who might dominate an face-to-face conversation can’t interrupt me or run over me. In a later email, I quoted Paulo Freire in Pedagogy of the Oppressed and applied much of what I learned in that book to this situation, particularly the idea that, in an ideal student-teacher relationship, “both are simultaneously teachers and students.” (p.72)
This segment from Freire speaks most clearly to my concerns with vocational activism, which in my experience too often seems ineffectual or even harmful:

Critical and liberating dialogue, which presupposes action, must be carried on with the oppressed at whatever the stage of their struggle for liberation…. But to substitute monologue, slogans, and communiqués for dialogue is to attempt to liberate the oppressed with the instruments of domestication [like the oppressor]….
At all stages of their liberation, the oppressed must see themselves as women and men engaged in the ontological and historical vocation of becoming more fully human….
To achieve this praxis, however, it is necessary to trust in the oppressed and in their ability to reason. Whoever lacks this trust will fail to initiate (or will abandon) dialogue, reflection, and communication…” (pp.65-66)
Freire’s Pedagogy of the Oppressed, however, left me wondering what he really meant by revolution and what he felt about violence. While he very clearly depicted the characteristics and effects of oppression (there is no peace without justice), I finished the book thinking, “OK, so what now? How do we go about revolutionary peacebuilding?”
To be clear, I’m not opposed to activism. Some of my best friends are activists. I was arrested for civil disobedience at a homelessness awareness rally in Washington, DC in my early 20s. But what rings true to me is that the best activism is a strategic, well organized, joyful, community-building action that elicits healthy dialog and interaction. Activism that breeds further polarization or is itself destructive is counterproductive.
In Return to the Teachings: Exploring Aboriginal Justice by Rupert Ross, the author reassessed his training in the Western legal justice system as he studied the restorative practices of Native Americans, in which disharmony is unhealthy. He wrote,
“The peacemaker is thus an investigator, a teacher and a guide. His [or her] primary responsibility is to help each person come to understand that life is relationship, and that a healthy life requires constant effort to provide as much nourishment as possible to every relationship that engages you.” [p.24]
I think Ross and his mentors have elucidated the core of peacebuilding, no matter what our methods: “… a central part of the healing process involves showing lost, hurt and frightened people that relationships built on respect and care are possible.” [p.153] When we try to demonstrate, in our own lives, the way of healthy relating (i.e. ‘love’), we do build peace, one healthy relationship at a time. And when everyone in society is seeking healthy relationships, our culture will naturally change as well.
In Ross’s words,
“It is an Ojibway teaching, for instance, that healthy relationships — and ‘a good life’ — depend on constantly cultivating seven attributes: Respect, Caring, Sharing, Kindness, Honesty, Strength and Humility. … It is understood that everyone is capable of improvement in all of them, at all times, through their lives.” [pp.155-156]
It’s not too late for us to honor and return to some of these life-embracing teachings of peoples whom European invaders all but obliterated.
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